What if there was a way to achieve your wildest dreams overnight? Do you think it’s possible to become successful in a day?
If you’re like me, deep down in your gut, the answer’s (hell!) no. Think about it: Some people dedicate decades to overcoming obstacles so they can obtain accolades and achieve notoriety. Bling-bloaw, what’s up now!
But what if we could save those thirty years of soul-suffocation, remove ourselves from the shackles that constrain us to our schedules, and stop slaving away our lives into a meaningless abyss?
Watch this video to learn:
- How to become successful in a day
- The difference between a goal and an intention
- How to attract what you want into your life
(I know I appear to have a slight glow to me. I have a startling announcement to make: I’m pregnant.)
Overnight success? Yeah, yeah. I know. It sounds like a bundle of over-entitled Generation-Y bat-shit. Mmmmmm… My, my, my.
Rewarding results take work, but success is subjective, and the real work starts with redefining success. <–Click to tweet!
“No great thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen.” -Epictetus
What’s the difference between a goal and an intention?
It was an immersion week of immense wisdom. Three weeks ago I assisted my buddy Mastin Kipp in teaching his Actualizing Your Soul’s Goals class at the en*theos Academy for Optimal Living. And after immersing myself in a plethora of powerful ideas, it’s time for me to add some ammunition to your arsenal.
There’s power in distinctions. Let’s make some…
Goals. We use ’em to guide us toward success. The general perception of achieving success often entails obtaining difficult and worthwhile goals. Agreed?
Warning: I’m about to throw a wrench in your spokes. You may go flying off the handlebars. I apologize for any raspberries and scratches. But if you were going in the wrong direction, it’s worth the tumble.
WTF is a goal?! *WHY* do we set it? And how does it differ from an intention?
Mastin makes a distinction:
- Goal = a result that we want (Example: to lose 30 pounds)
- Intention = the feeling that we want to experience (Example: to feel healthy)
A lot of the goals that we have are because our family or our society wants us to achieve them. As a first step, we want clarity on *why* we want to accomplish the goals.
Remember: Goals are a result that we want. But they exist because we want to experience an *intention* (which is a feeling)!
In other words, goals are a means to an end. And that end is our intention!
So while you think your goal is to lose 30 pounds, you’re really doing it so you can feel healthier and more attractive!
We’re blind-sighted to the fact that we set goals so we can achieve our intention. It’s not so much about having the trophy on our shelf – it’s the fact that we’ll feel proud and worthy when it’s up there. It’s not so much that we wanna be happily married – it’s the fact that we wanna feel loved and appreciated. It’s not that we want to make $100,000 per year – it’s the fact that we wanna feel financially free and socially validated. Ladies, you gettin’ this? Fellahs, you embracin’ those emotions!?
We set goals so we can feel feelings.
Here’s why this is so important:
You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. <–Click to tweet!
You need to be that which you wanna attract! You can’t lack your way into abundance. You can’t hate your way into a loving relationship.
Figure out what you want, and then figure out how you can be that NOW.
Wanna be loved? Be more loving! Wanna be happier? Express more gratitude! Want people to like you? Learn to like yourself!
How to become successful overnight
Think about your biggest goals. Maybe it’s making a billion bucks per year. Maybe it’s swapping saliva with your soul-mate 10 minutes from now. Maybe it’s saving baby dolphins in the Indian ocean. List 5 or 10 big goals that you have. (You can make them up right now!)
- One
- Two
- Three
- Four
- Done
Outta all the goals you listed, pick the goal which you’d like to accomplish more than any other. Go head – be picky and pick one!
Now, imagine yourself actually achieving that, baby. Job. Well. Done. This is the clutch:
What would you feel like if you nailed your goal? If you reached your goal, and this was the reality of your everyday life, how would you feel? List the top 5 feelings!
- One
- Two
- Three
- Four
- Done
BOOM. BAM. God-Damn! 🙂 It’s time to redefine your prior perception of what success means to you. THIS IS SUCCESS. Success is feeling the feelings you just listed.
Now, here’s the hack: What can you do TODAY to start to feel those feelings right now? Not in 30 years. Not once you hit some self-imposed marker. Not once you get yourself a company Rolex or set of pearl earrings. Today, tomorrow, and the next day: What can you do to ensure you start to feel these feelings on a daily basis? Remember:
You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. You need to be that which you wanna attract.
Pick the feeling which is most lacking in your life right now and schedule a time every day to do something which will enable you to feel it.
Wanna feel more playful? Schedule a time to watch some comedy or chase your cats around the house with a broomstick.
Wanna feel healthier? Schedule a time to go to yoga on a reoccurring basis.
Wanna feel more fulfilled? Schedule a time when you can do something nice for someone with no expectation of any return.
If it doesn’t get scheduled, it doesn’t get done. So schedule it now!
And if this idea resonates with you, and you want to work one-on-one with me, schedule a time to talk with me! I have a few coaching slots open for my two month program. Send me an email at [email protected] and let me know *why* you wanna work together. We can set up a “get to know each other” chat and see if it makes sense. Schedule it! 🙂
So: What feelings would you need to feel in order for you to be successful? Answer in the comments below!
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Just what i needed to find hope amid a sea of despair….
i dont even remember when i last checked out sensophy…but i'm sure glad i did it today…
thanks 🙂
Glad you did too! 🙂
Let me know how I can support you, Gunja! I'm here.
Heard you on Radio Enso and dig your energy brother! You are doing great work and an inspiring soul. For Real!
Thanx dude. Thrilled to hear it and looking fwd to connecting in the months and years ahead.
Life is good, yo. 🙂
'Preciate the post Jacob and I respect what you do bro. Up this late looking for some inspiration because I'm dreading going to the same ol' monotonous job tomorrow AM. I have what some ppl would consider a great job and I prob shouldn't complain considering the economy, but can't seem to shake that emptiness feeling for nothin. I'm 24 now and have been trying to find my purpose for quite sometime. I know for a fact it's the only way to live a fulfilling life. I say that to say keep doing what you do bro, because our generation prob needs it more than ever now.
Ah bro! Sounds like you're telling my story. 🙂
I remember being 24, in what most would consider a great job, making enough cake to do what i wanted, and waking up feeling like a zombie – totally unexcited with no purpose. There's hope, dude. 🙂
Let me know how i can help yo. Great to hear you're on the path to progress. Baby steps!
Awesome way to explain goals and intentions! Never heard it that way, and love your perspective! Have a good one!
My pleasure Kristine! 🙂
Thrilled it speaks to you. And it's definitely an interesting and counter-culture approach to success.
Distinctions are dope. 🙂
After publishing this, it's got me thinking philosophically about the debate between logic and emotion, reason and senses. Where does legacy come into play with this? Yada… Yada… Yada… Lots of fun food for thought!
Good times. 🙂
Nice work buddy…well said!
Thanx yo! 🙂
Fantastic post. My #1 goal that I want more than all my others is to earn $4,000 a month doing my passion works. My passion works include blogging, healthy eating, yoga, dance, and creative use of the intrawebz (video, graphics, etc)..
I would feel
#1 – Free-spirited
#2 – On Purpose (living my purpose)
#3 – Independent
#4 – Creative
#5 – Role-Model/Recognition
Getting paid to do what you love?!
I can get with that. 🙂
So, what can you do to feel more free-spirited, TODAY?
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm…..
Oh, the one I feel most lacking is recognition. I really don't know what to do to increase this other than to do some volunteerwork. I've scheduled some for later in the month 🙂 I know of a place, right next to my favourite yoga studio, that is looking for more help to feed homeless, which is something I really enjoy.
Hey Udo! 🙂
Funny. I have a bit of resistance to striving for recognition. It feels a little too close to seeking validation for me personally, although I think that's more of my interpretation than it is the feeling you're looking to articulate.
Perhaps the feeling you're describing has more to do with making a meaningful impact in peoples lives? Or being loved and appreciated for who you are?
In either instance, love that you're getting clarity and taking action!
Virtual hugs, homey.
First heard you on PN Academy, digg'n your energy Jacob. So Glad to stumble across a generation of people who have nailed this so early in life. It took me MUCH longer to figure out 🙂 I couldn't leave this page without expressing gratitude to you and all the other life coaches out there! So cool!
Five Goals?
Open a Bed and Breakfast Retreat in the country with my wife. An Oasis for people who need to decompress.
Host Optimal Living Seminars/workshops with guest speakers like yourself.
Retire from my JOB within 5 years.
Be financially independent (is that specific enough for a goal? seriously though… should there be a dollar value?)
Be the coolest parent/grandfather ever!
Five Feelings?
Freedom
Loving
Relaxed
Confident
Happy
Hey Paul!
Ah, you come from The Academy. Good peeps! 🙂
Love that you articulated your goals too!
To answer your question about specificity, I'd point you right back to The Academy. Heidi Grant Halverson is one of the world's leading experts on the science of success and goal achievement. I've worked with her on all the classes she's taught at The Academy (we're starting one next week!) and her book is *def* work the read: http://www.amazon.com/Succeed-How-Can-Reach-Goals…
In short, when you set goals, you want to make them * specific* and *difficult*. Check out these notes which I wrote for her Making It Happen class: http://www.entheos.com/academy/notes/entheosacade…
To keep the goodness rollin' – what can you do right now to feel those feelings you listed daily? 🙂
YUP. This is what I needed to hear. You gotta be the cause of the effects you want to experience. Also, whenever I feel stuck in my business due to a stack of things to do… I have to remind myself to do something… anything.. to move in a forward direction, as long as I'm not stagnant.
With the goal/intention thing, I can't help but think about consumerism and why people spend an arm and a leg for the next big thing– they want to *FEEL* what they believe coveted material objects will give them (confidence, self-esteem, sex appeal etc) or trying to fit that status quo that society has laid out before them. Major kudos on these wonderful insights, Jacob.
Hey Mika. 🙂
Reminds me of Emerson: "Cause and effect are two sides of one fact."
and
"Cause and effect, means and ends, seed and fruit cannot be severed; for the effect already blooms in the cause, the end preexists in the means, the fruit in the seed"
As for consumerism, YUP. 🙂 Our low self worth is big business. Mass media and pop culture tell us that we're broken and not good enough the way we are. BUTTTTT, buying a new $400 pair of high heels or $200 pair of Nike Dunks will raise our self-esteem, restore our happiness, and get people to like (if not worship) us.
Reminds me of something i posted on Facebook not too long ago:
"As a culture, we've got pretty bad problems when we make women feel more valued for their looks than for their brains, personalities, and abilities. Our mothers, sisters, daughters, (and homegirls!) feel an aggressive pressure to live up to virtually unattainable definitions of beauty. BTW, these are *culturally* defined definitions that *advertisers* control and consistently alter. Did you know: Almost HALF of all underweight women think they're fat?! That's no coincidence. The diet industry racks in $33 billion per year, and cosmetics take in another $20 billion. Our (low) self-worth is big business. My dudes, let a woman know she's beautiful for who she is, not who she's pressured to present herself as. Authenticity leads to intimacy. And intimacy leads to love. Let's step our game up."
That being said….. Life is good. 🙂
Hey Jakob, i read a phrase in your comment that caught my attention. "buying a new $400 pair of high heels or $200 pair of Nike Dunks will raise our self-esteem" i believe that this matter motivates only the weak persons and not everybody. I can feel better in a 20-50 $ snickers because i'm confident in me and my powers.
Right on! Right on!
More power to ya! 🙂
Hey Jacob!
It's been awhile since I've commented on here (which I'm sad about), but when I read this post there were two thoughts that came to mind…
First — I LOVE the way you think! I'm definitely going to be copying and saving that Facebook post of yours…help to remind myself that there are still amazing guys out there. 🙂
Second — it made me think of a YouTube video I was shown in my Public Speaking class. I'm not sure if you've seen it (or know about it) but it was about a Dove billboard. I forget where it was put up at (I think California, but don't quote me on that), but somehow someone found out about all the special effects and "touching up" it took for them to make the woman on the billboard look "beautiful" and it caused a video to be posted actually showing all the changes the advertisers did to perfect the image. I'm sure if you search for Dove billboard video on YouTube you'd be able to find it. It was honestly sickening to me that in order for this woman to be beautiful enough for the image they basically changed everything about her…when you compare the before and after images it doesn't even look like the same woman.
I'm sorry to go on a little "rant" but this is something that really bothers me…how much we're all expected to change to meet those "impossible standards of beauty" you mentioned.
Always sending out lots of love to you!! <3
– Cassandra
I read this at exactly the right time, man! So much of my work now seems to pointing me more toward present living, and this makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the great post, Jacob!
Perfecto! Thrilled it speaks to ya (+ my pleasure!). 🙂
Great advice! It's so easy to get caught up living in the future once you've set your goals. I'm definitely guilty of that. Thanks for reminding me that life is good as is and that I don't have to reach some fancy goal in order to be happy.
muchos love 🙂
Life is gooooooooooooooooooooooood. 🙂
You bet, homey. Honored to be playing together!
Yo Jacob,
This is real powerful man. I am very big into goal setting. It has had a huge impact on my life. But prior to hearing this, I had never thought about goal setting in terms of striving to attain a particular emotion. Which as you clearly showed this is exactly what it is.
I can already feel how this will impact how I approach goal setting. It makes it easier to identify what I want because I already am aware of what I want to feel.
Awesome man.