Calm down MTV – this has nothing to do with you. This is something different. This is exactly what most people will never tell you about following your heart and becoming your dream. You know why? Because they’ve never done it. Or they’ve tried it and gave up when their panties started scrunching.
This is about defying the odds when you can’t even count them. This is about short circuiting the system that’s limiting your life to 3-day weekends and bi-annual 6-day vacations. This is outrageous excitement, meeting “unrealistic” aspirations, and using grounding wisdom to keep your head above the clouds – especially when non-believers are raining on your parade.
What the hell am I talking about? I thought you’d never ask.
Last Tuesday I had my first child. And by child I mean, product release. And by product release, I mean my motherfucking mind, heart, and soul all aligned and combined to give you my greatest gift possible: Living On Purpose. I’d spent the last 26 years fucking up my life and fixing it – taking two steps forward and one step backward – doing all the wrong things to find some of the right ones.
As I sit and write this right now, in a penthouse hostel in Waikiki Hawaii, it’s never been more clear to me:
I’ve created an extraordinary life.
Not because I’m sitting here in warm weather with tropical mountains behind my laptop screen. And not because Sensophy had 2,500 different people come to it last week. And not because I’m exuding an extraordinarily infections enthusiastic energy (that Wilson on Facebook said is coming out of my armpits) – which makes it easy to connect with anyone about anything.
Not just because I have the freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want. And not because there’s a good chance I’ll spend 6 months traveling the world next year. Not because I just released a product that is inspiring and empowering people to live more fulfilled lives. And not because I wake up in the morning excited about my life.
I’m living an extraordinary life not because of anything above, but rather, because of everything above.
My dad left me a comment the other day on The State of My Life Addressed. In it, he said: “You’ve created an unbelievable journey for yourself no matter what happens in your future.”
And that’s exactly it.
I still don’t know what my future holds. And I still don’t know where I’ll be in 3 months. But I do know that whatever happens, it will continue to be an unbelievable journey. For me, life is no longer about “getting-by” – or as my buddy Steve Roy calls it, “grinding-it-out.” It’s now about this extraordinary adventure that I’ve turned my life into – On Purpose!
The thing is, I’m not gonna sit here and sell you the Brooklyn Bridge and tell you that finding your purpose and creating an extraordinary life will fix all your problems. That’s crap. Your bullshit radar intuitively knows that’s not true and my personal code of ethics wouldn’t let me deceive you. This is real life. I miss my stop on the bus. I have days that suck. I’m not over all my negative fixations. Shit happens. I stub my motherfucking toes too.
Shitty things happen to all of us – the difference is that they happen to me on this unbelievable journey – and that makes dealing with them all the more worth it.
If you’ve been thinking about taking that next step in your life, but haven’t had the gusto to let go and get going, this will help. Here’s something that “realistic people” will never tell you. This is what happens when you commit to finding your purpose and creating an extraordinary life (in between the toe stubbing and missed bus stops).
And I cannot begin to tell you how massive of a motherfucking understatement that is. But I’m gonna try.
Let me just say that it wasn’t always this way. You may look at me and have a preconceived opinion that because of my positive armpit energy, people gravitate toward me. And I won’t completely deny that. But it’s easy to say Kanye West is a great music artist – it’s hard to say he’s worked harder at what he does than 99.9% of people.
“If people knew how hard I worked to get my mastery, it wouldn’t seem so wonderful at all.” -Michelangelo
There’s a reason that a few times each week, people tell me, “If I can ever help – let me know.” And it isn’t because I was born attracting warm-hearted people. The reason is that I got really clear about what I want, and why I want it, and was able to communicate that message to a selective group of individuals who can feel it in their heart.
You can do the same thing.
You may not know how now, but when you really know what you want, and you get laser sharp clarity on why you want it, and you communicate that message to the right people, then amazing unforeseen things come together in ways which would leave wizards and sorcerers shitting themselves in disbelief.
(I talk about this in Living On Purpose. As i see it, when looking for help, the right people to communicate your message to are people who’ve done what you’re looking to do, and people who you view as successful. Here’s a short video on that.)
This is how I got 10 busy “People On Purpose” living extraordinary lives to help launch Living On Purpose. This is why my old company from my old job, hosts my new website from my new life. This is why successful code-programmers and entrepreneurs like Mike Bridgman and Davy Kestens have spent 10s of hours working with me (for free) to help get Living On Purpose launched.
This is why my homeboy Nick (one of the busiest guys i know) spent over 20 hours editing the Living On Purpose audio-book one week before it launched. This is why my homeboy Edwin (the second busiest guy i know) spent the same amount of time helping me shoot a “Sensophy welcome video” which you may never see. This is why Devon Mills spent countless hours proof reading Living On Purpose and made 100s of small edits. This is why my angel, Aunt Lorraine, who’s an amazingly person and successful psychologist, came through for me at pivotal moments and helped me overcome some personal anxiety and resistance to success. The list goes on and on…
3 years ago i could barely find a single person who was interested in the same thing as me – Wisdom? What? And now, now we have an entire community and extended network who all give a shit and are gigantically generous with their support.
Sensophy was mentioned in over 15 blogs on last Tuesday, the day that Living On Purpose was released. That wasn’t because I sold these people on my product – it was because they know I’m living my dream and they sincerely – like deep fucking down, sincerely – want to help me in continuing to do so.
That’s the type of shit “The Real World” doesn’t talk about. That’s the type of magic that playa-hating-pessimists neglect to brief you on when they’re aiming a bazooka to blow up your dream.
You may enjoy checking out some of the interviews and posts that were published last week as these people helped to support me in living my dream. There’s enough quality content here to last you a year. Get to know these people – they’re my soul squadron. They’re all magnificently noteworthy. Note them.
Disrupting the Rabblement: How To Cure Worry (And Live on Purpose)
Dave Ursillo: Living on Purpose and Why Jacob Sokol Wants You to Leave Here and Never Return
Surfer Lifestyle Design: Living on Purpose: Finding Your Path w/ Jacob Sokol of Sensophy.com
The Feel Good Lifestyle: Learning How To Live on Purpose: A Refreshing Interview with Jacob Sokol
Reality Burst: Living On Purpose With Jacob Sokol
Get Busy Living: Start Living on Purpose Today with Jacob Sokol
Josh Roa: Why “Living On Purpose” Author, Jacob Sokol, Just Won’t Let Up
Video Guest Posts:
Ending The Grind: Are You Living On Purpose Or Just Living?
Kikolani: 10,000 Hours to Living on Purpose
Puttylike: A Multipotentialite-Friendly Guide to Finding Your Purpose
TinyBuddha: What You Need To Live A Life Of Purpose
Marc And Angel: 12 Things Happy People Do Differently
Upgrade Reality: Jacob Sokol On Working To Live vs. Living To Work
Experience Life Magazine: What to Watch Out For, the Number One Type of Motivator
Beyond Venus: What Dreams Are Made Of
Live Your Legend: The One Thing You Must Do the Moment You Quit or Get Fired (Purpose Finding 101)
And that’s a wrap.
But before i sign off and head to the beach, I wanna reiterate the take-away here. Like everything else i share with you, keep the wisdom which works for you, try the stuff you like but doubt, and leave the rest right where you found it. For me, the biggest take away has been what i shared above:
Shitty things happen to all of us – the difference is that when you find your purpose and create an extraordinary life – it makes dealing with them all the more worth it.
If you do, or don’t, pick up a copy of Living On Purpose, my wish for you is that you create an extraordinary life for yourself.
As On Purpose as ever,
Wanna say thanks?
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PS: I’m thrilled that Living On Purpose is effecting people’s lives in such a massively empowering way. If the price of the package is standing in the way of you using it to change your life, email me and we’ll work something out!